We often hear advice to ignore negative thoughts or self-talk and to try thinking differently. But what if simply pushing those thoughts away means missing an important message? Negative thoughts are not always a problem to be stopped. Sometimes, they carry clues about what’s really going on inside us. Instead of beating ourselves up or trying to force positivity, getting curious about these uncomfortable feelings can help us understand ourselves better. Last week, while considering writing a...

Have you ever reacted in a way that felt too strong, too intense, or not like you at all? Maybe others have told you your response was out of proportion, or you’ve labeled it as overreacting. But what if that reaction wasn't too much? What if it was a completely appropriate response to what’s actually going on beneath the surface? This post explores how our reactions reflect our deeper truths about our experiences, emotions, and needs. Image by Stephanie Hau Why We Judge Our Reactions When...

Ever felt like yelling, “If change was that easy, I would have done it already!” I have and I've said it. Many times. And I will probably say it again. Despite that, over the years, I have changed so much that my husband jokes I’m on Version 10.7 of myself. So if change isn't easy, how have I changed so much?