How often do we speak to ourselves in this way?
Question our self worth, talk ourselves out of our ideas and aspirations?
For the vast majority of us this style of speaking to ourselves is common place, there can be this constant voice telling us were not good enough, we cant do this or that. I had just this voice come up when I thought about starting my blog, it was trying to talk me out of it, trying to protect me from making my self vulnerable to others scrutiny. As a therapist and someone who has worked through a fair bit of my ‘stuff’ I could spot this for what it was, an out dated inner critic that I could dismiss. This is exactly the reason that I felt I wanted to write my Blog, to stick my fingers up at my inner critic and share with others that this is possible.
So welcome to my Blog 'Emotionally Held'!
Rewind 4 years, I never would have sat here writing a post to put out there, I was 31 years old, had been suffering from varying degrees of depression for 17 years and ME/CFS for 6 months, I had just started a journey of healing my body and my mind that would change my life forever. It would teach me that I wasn’t a broken, defective person for feeling the way I did when on the outside I had the perfect life, a loving supportive fiancé, a good job, a lovely home in a beautiful village, a close group of friends and loving family. I was just a human who had challenges when growing up and as a result I developed unhelpful coping mechanisms. I like so many others couldn’t see why I was affected in this way and I judged it as wrong.
With the support of a therapist and my own studies I have worked through a lot, I’ve adapted how I operate in the world and in the pursuit of happiness I’ve so far learned that pure happiness day in day out is unattainable. It’s often the pursuit of this that can make us feel like we are failing at life and not good enough. What I’ve learnt instead is to work towards a feeling of contentment and acceptance of life as it is, with all of its imperfection, joy, pain and darn right desolation at times, it’s a mixture of all of these things that make up normal everyday life.
I’m not saying its easy, I'd be lying if I said I had this nailed all of the time, but there are things we can do to make it easier on ourselves, there are things that help us get to this place and these are what I’ll be sharing with you over the coming weeks. They are ideas and theories I have used myself on my journey and I use with my clients, see what resonates and inspires you over the following weeks and please let me know what you think, what you’re finding helpful and what you want to hear more about, you can comment below, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or send me a message on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter.
In case your curious on what therapies I use, I’m trained in NLP, EFT, Coaching and Hypnotherapy, you can read more about these here.
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