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I’m failing! ...or am I?

Aug 30, 2019
2 min

I’m failing! ...or am I?

It’s been a while since my last blog post and todays is a short one. I know, what a fail! Or is it? It’s been a busy month and I chose to prioritise myself and my clients and let the blog sit for a few weeks. So is that a fail? I haven’t achieved all that I set out to do, but life happens, things come up that throw us off track and being able to flex ourselves and our plans with this is paramount to staying well (mentally and physically). One of the things that can stand in t

Self love...oh cringe!

Aug 6, 2019
4 min

Self love...oh cringe!

Talking about self love can bring up many different responses in people, for some it’s cringy and uncomfortable, for others its shameful and some think its self-indulgent. It’s much more socially acceptable to criticise ourselves than it is to say something complimentary about ourselves. There’s a perception that if we love ourselves we are big headed and egotistical. Many of us will play it down when we are complimented rather than saying 'thank you', some people feel guilt

You don't need fixing

Jul 26, 2019
4 min

You don't need fixing

What are the qualities we imagine when we think of someone who is emotionally sorted? Calm Doesn’t get angry Doesn’t cry Doesn’t react to things This sounds more like a robot than a human being! But its funny this is often what is thought of when people are asked what they view as good mental health. I hear many people labelling their emotions as bad and wrong and that having them makes them mentally unwell. We often think if we could be unemotional we would be much happier.

Self care?!? I’m too busy caring for everyone else!

Jul 9, 2019
4 min

Self care?!? I’m too busy caring for everyone else!

Anyone feel like they constantly seem to be doing things for others and have no time for themselves? That your needs are always pushed aside? This can be exhausting! I work with many people saying just these things and that it’s always been their role in the family or friendship group to be there for everyone, to listen to everyone’s problems and do things for them. This can be the case for so many people in their families, at work and with friends. Please don’t think I’m say

I’ll be happy when……

Jun 25, 2019
3 min

I’ll be happy when……

How many of us use this phrase or one like it? “I’ll be happy / start dating / get well / move house / loose the weight / leave my job when I loose the weight / I get the job / I’m married / I have kids / the kids move out / I’m well / I can buy the house / I’m divorced” The lists are endless! By doing this we are always postponing our happiness and when we get these things there always seems to be something else. So do we ever end up actually being happy? What if we could a

Gratitude, is it just another fad?!?

Jun 11, 2019
3 min

Gratitude, is it just another fad?!?

There's a lot of focus on gratitude these days, with many shops selling gratitude journals and books, but surely it has to be a fad, how can saying you’re grateful for things every day really change how you feel? That was my opinion when the practitioner I was working with to recover from ME/CFS suggested it, but I was desperate, I had lost any sense of there being anything good in my life and I couldn’t see a way out, so I tried it. I have to admit at first it was hard to th

Numbing out or feeling, which is more painful?!?

May 28, 2019
3 min

Numbing out or feeling, which is more painful?!?

Last week I talked about breaking the pattern of needing to do by being present and experiencing life's joys. Sometimes however we have been staying busy for very good reasons, because if we stop we start to feel and that can be an uncomfortable place to be. But staying busy and pushing these unwanted emotions away doesn’t work for long, they just push back at another time because they are there for a reason. For example, fear can let us know that we do not feel safe and stee

On the achieving treadmill, is it ever enough?!?

May 21, 2019
3 min

On the achieving treadmill, is it ever enough?!?

How many of us feel like we achieve one thing, barely stop for a breath never mind to actually reflect on what we’ve accomplished and then are on to the next thing? We rarely take time to celebrate our successes, that achievement be it big or small that has taken effort or time or courage becomes worthless once we’ve done it because there is always more to do or achieve. I’m guilty of this and recently had a very timely reminder from a friend to step back and look at all I’ve

Mental Health Awareness Week; a different take on awareness

May 14, 2019
3 min

Mental Health Awareness Week; a different take on awareness

Its Mental Health Awareness week and so I started reflecting on the purpose of raising awareness. Of course its important culturally so help is more readily available, doors are open to having necessary conversations with people like our employers and it also sets the foundations for more meaningful things such as understanding and acceptance. In our personal lives this doesn’t seem quite as simple, I often hear peoples discontent at not being understood by partners, parents,

Who would be interested in what I have to say?!?

May 7, 2019
3 min

Who would be interested in what I have to say?!?

How often do we speak to ourselves in this way? Question our self worth, talk ourselves out of our ideas and aspirations? For the vast majority of us this style of speaking to ourselves is common place, there can be this constant voice telling us were not good enough, we cant do this or that. I had just this voice come up when I thought about starting my blog, it was trying to talk me out of it, trying to protect me from making my self vulnerable to others scrutiny. As a ther