Here are my thoughts on the questions I am asked most, but also the questions that are googled because we don’t want to actually ask them.
What is the best therapy and how do I choose a therapist?
There are so many therapies out there that it can be hard to know which is best and I’m afraid it’s not a clean-cut answer, there is no best overall, but there are the ones that feel right for us.
So, to give some practical advice here I would say have a chat with a few therapists offering different services and see what you are drawn to. Most therapists will offer a free initial chat/consultation for you to get a feel for them and what they do, so take advantage of that.
I offer a free 30-minute initial chat for you to ask questions and see if you you would like to work with me (if you would like to book one email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 07825500382).
Do I need therapy?
Here are some questions that might indicated that therapy could be helpful:
Are you struggling with something in your life?
Do you feel stuck?
Are emotions feeling overwhelming?
Is your mood low or up and down?
Is the past troubling you?
Do you have pain or physical issues that the medical world can’t help with?
If what you are experiencing isn’t mentioned here but you feel like you need some help, book a free initial chat and we can explore this further.
On a side note, I get a lot of people telling me “I have thought about therapy before, but I’m not depressed or suicidal, so I didn’t get in touch”. You don’t have to be depressed or suicidal to benefit from therapy, if you feel stuck in your thinking or your emotions and it is causing you any unhappiness or difficulty, therapy may be able to help.
What do therapists do?
I help my clients:
get back in touch with or build their own resources
learn how to be with and process their emotions
work through trauma
build confidence and resilience
let go of unwanted habits
recover from illness
Does therapy actually work?
Both personally and professionally I can say yes to this one, but of course I would wouldn’t I.
However over the years I have received a number of emails and messages of thanks from my past and existing clients saying how much the work we have done has benefited them and have had people say it has changed their lives, so yes I would say it works.
What happens during a therapy session & do I have to cry?
This varies a lot, but in simple terms we talk and do some tapping (EFT, read more about this here).
You share what you want and feel comfortable to and we go at your pace.
Crying in therapy is a highly googled question and no you don’t have to cry, crying is however absolutely ok and welcome in my therapy but not necessary to make progress.
Do therapists see therapists?
I can’t speak for all therapists but I definitely do on a regular basis so I am able to be fully present with my clients without my stuff getting in the way - yes therapists have stuff too!
Is therapy good for everyone?
Yes, as long as the therapist’s expertise are suited to the client’s needs and it is tailored to the individual. No two of my sessions are the same as no two of my clients are the same, we all need different things at different times.
How long does therapy take to work?
For some a few sessions is all that is needed, for some regular sessions over years are wanted.
Why do you do EFT and NLP rather than Counselling or CBT?
I personally experienced the power of these therapies’ vs the frustration of Counselling and CBT so I naturally trained in the areas I believe can create real lasting change and healing (thats not to say Counselling and CBT don't have a place, they just didn't give me and other I have known what I needed).
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